The Unopened Gift

Short story about the ability to rejoice in another's happiness.

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Raphael sits at a wooden desk beside a large window, an open manuscript before him and a framed photograph of him and his sister, with small birds in the sunlit garden outside.

When his younger sister won the prestigious literary award, Raphael was the first to embrace her.

"I knew you'd make it," he said with a smile.

But on his way home, he felt something tighten in his chest.

He, too, had been writing for years. He, too, dreamed of publishing a book. In his desk drawer lay three manuscripts that no publisher had wanted.

That night, he couldn't sleep.

He loved his sister. He truly did.

So why did her success hurt so much?

The next morning, he went for a long walk. Near a public garden, he noticed an old man feeding birds.

"May I ask you something strange?" Raphael said.

The old man nodded.

"Can you love someone and still envy them?"

"Of course," the old man replied. "Sometimes we envy the people we love most."

"How do we stop?"

The old man scattered a few more crumbs.

"Do you see those birds?"

Raphael looked.

"When one finds a crumb, do the others become any less hungry?"

"No."

"Exactly. Yet people do something curious. When someone else receives something wonderful, we feel as though something has been taken from us."

Raphael smiled awkwardly.

"So what do we do with that feeling?"

"We don't fight it. We simply ask it one question: Do I want this person to be happy?"

"Of course."

"Then allow yourself to rejoice in their happiness. You can tend to your own pain afterward. It doesn't have to disappear before you can be happy for them."

That evening, Raphael called his sister.

"I want to hear everything," he said. "What did you feel when they called your name?"

She laughed, told him the story, and cried a little with excitement.

Raphael listened.

At first, he still felt the familiar sting. But the longer he listened to the joy in her voice, the more he found himself smiling.

"I'm so proud of you," he finally said.

"You know," she replied, "you were the first person to read my stories when I was little. If you hadn't encouraged me, I might never have started writing."

Raphael fell silent.

All these years, he had imagined they were running the same race.

Suddenly, he understood that his sister had never been running against him.

She had simply been running toward her own dream.

After the call, he opened his desk drawer, took out one of his manuscripts, and began to read.

He still wanted to become a writer.

But now there was one more writer in the world whom he loved.

Carry this with you

For the first time, he understood that another person's joy takes nothing away from his own. It can add to it.

The Wisdom Behind the Story

Muditā — Sympathetic Joy in Buddhism

An original fictional story inspired by Muditā, the Buddhist practice of sympathetic joy. Raphael and his sister are literary characters; this is not a traditional Buddhist parable, a historical account, or a quotation attributed to the Buddha.

Muditā, or sympathetic joy, is one of the Four Divine Abidings (Brahmavihāras) in Buddhism.

It is the practice of genuinely rejoicing in the happiness and success of others without experiencing their good fortune as a threat to our own worth.

Muditā does not ask us to abandon our ambitions. It reminds us that another person's happiness does not diminish our own.

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Questions & answers

+What is the message of "The Unopened Gift"?

For the first time, he understood that another person's joy takes nothing away from his own. It can add to it. Muditā, or sympathetic joy, is one of the Four Divine Abidings (Brahmavihāras) in Buddhism. It is the practice of genuinely rejoicing in the happiness and success of others without experiencing their good fortune as a threat to our own worth. Muditā does not ask us to abandon our ambitions. It reminds us that another person's happiness does not diminish our own.

+Is this a true story?

An original fictional story inspired by Muditā, the Buddhist practice of sympathetic joy. Raphael and his sister are literary characters; this is not a traditional Buddhist parable, a historical account, or a quotation attributed to the Buddha.

+Which wisdom tradition inspired this story?

Buddhism — Muditā — Sympathetic Joy in Buddhism. The end of suffering through clear seeing.

A question for you

Can we truly celebrate someone else's success, even when they achieve a dream we are still waiting to fulfill?

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